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From the Ted Talk by June Tangney: What's the difference between guilt and shame?

Unscramble the Blue Letters

Yes, I geuss it depends whose expectations you're thinking of. If it's our own enectioaptxs, maybe they weren't realistic, or maybe we exepcted too much. I think that in this world now, which moves so fast, I mean — everybody's overloaded. There's something wrong there! About measuring up to other people's expectation, that's a really, really important one, and I think it's critical to separate out what other people's expectations are of you and what your own expectations are, what your own vlueas are. And we care about what loved ones and other people think about us, but ultimately, we want to be true to our own values and be sensitive to others who may have different feligens, different ideas. Explain to the other person, "You know, you expect me to do X, I understand that you'd like me to do that, but I'm doing Y, and this is why. It's really important to me."

Open Cloze

Yes, I _____ it depends whose expectations you're thinking of. If it's our own ____________, maybe they weren't realistic, or maybe we ________ too much. I think that in this world now, which moves so fast, I mean — everybody's overloaded. There's something wrong there! About measuring up to other people's expectation, that's a really, really important one, and I think it's critical to separate out what other people's expectations are of you and what your own expectations are, what your own ______ are. And we care about what loved ones and other people think about us, but ultimately, we want to be true to our own values and be sensitive to others who may have different ________, different ideas. Explain to the other person, "You know, you expect me to do X, I understand that you'd like me to do that, but I'm doing Y, and this is why. It's really important to me."

Solution

  1. values
  2. expected
  3. feelings
  4. expectations
  5. guess

Original Text

Yes, I guess it depends whose expectations you're thinking of. If it's our own expectations, maybe they weren't realistic, or maybe we expected too much. I think that in this world now, which moves so fast, I mean — everybody's overloaded. There's something wrong there! About measuring up to other people's expectation, that's a really, really important one, and I think it's critical to separate out what other people's expectations are of you and what your own expectations are, what your own values are. And we care about what loved ones and other people think about us, but ultimately, we want to be true to our own values and be sensitive to others who may have different feelings, different ideas. Explain to the other person, "You know, you expect me to do X, I understand that you'd like me to do that, but I'm doing Y, and this is why. It's really important to me."

Frequently Occurring Word Combinations

ngrams of length 2

collocation frequency
people feel 6
feel bad 3
feel shame 3
feel guilt 3
bad person 2

Important Words

  1. care
  2. critical
  3. depends
  4. expect
  5. expectation
  6. expectations
  7. expected
  8. explain
  9. fast
  10. feelings
  11. guess
  12. ideas
  13. important
  14. loved
  15. measuring
  16. moves
  17. overloaded
  18. people
  19. person
  20. realistic
  21. sensitive
  22. separate
  23. thinking
  24. true
  25. ultimately
  26. understand
  27. values
  28. world
  29. wrong